New Scents Arriving

My twin boys are really silly. I get a couple of regular shipments and they somehow know exactly what is inside the packages of the scents that I have been telling you about.

They run to the box and climb all over it until I open it and then they proceed to pick every bar out of the box. Once the bars are all removed to their satisfaction, they start their attempts of opening them.

One at a time each boy with a scent, they keep trying and trying to open them up.

And then the signing and squeaking begin: “Plea” “Plea” – Rubbing their little hands on your chest for please. This is really a very cute sight to see and hear. You can’t help but smile and even laugh out loud at them.

They continue to repeat the process, asking for help if needed, until they have each smelled all of the bars at least twice.

I realize that this is similar to family life.

Children have such a way of helping us see things so clearly and simplify our lives when we will look and listen to them. They teach us to have excitement about simple experiences that we share.

I know that my boys prefer to do things with me. I don’t like to do things alone. The excitement of the package is exciting because they have someone to share it with.

I really don’t think that they would be so entertained or enthusiastic about it if they were put in the room by themselves. In fact they never touch the box, to my knowledge, when I am not there.

The simplest little things like opening a box full of scents can bring us happiness when we do it together.

Doing simple things together is the first point that I realized. The second point is that we need to ask for help. When it is something that we are doing together, we should most definitely ask for help from one another.

The oldest of my twin boys is one who wants to do what he is doing by himself and hates for you to offer the help, but when he asks it is because he knows that he is to the point that he cannot do it by himself.

Smell, Repeat and Enjoy – Practice makes perfect

The third thing that I realized is that when something is fun and makes us happy together, we should do it over and over again.

I love my boys. I never get tired of them wanting to help or enjoying their lives. When they are smelling sweetness in their lives, I smell bouquets in mine.

Enjoy right now

Cara Harker :)

Moving...

No matter how long I live my moving will always be a pain.

I decided that after we moved while I was pregnant with twins and I had to just throw everything into boxes as I could. I was going to eventually sort through everything and get it nice and consolidated.

I finally did, but then it came time to purge and sort the baby stuff.

I have high hopes of being able to conceive naturally this time. It took us three and a half years and finally IVF to get the boys. What a blessing. Because of that we have frozen embryos that after we try for at least six months to a year on our own, we will be able to utilize if I am still not functioning properly.

I just say that because I could just get rid of everything and be done with it, but we want more kids. These two are fantastic and I cannot complain about them at all. They are so different and so fantastic. I couldn't' be more blessed. I really want girls to look up to these two amazing big brothers. Oh! They will be good big brothers, to sisters or brothers. :)

So back on track. My entire life seems to have been spent in an extra double wide trailer that we just used to store things... and after we moved while I was pregnant i decided that I was really tired of living my life like that and wanted to consolidate and just keep important and useful things. We have been moving my mom to a different apartment and she has a lot of stuff...

This is where the point of moving comes in. :) She used the analogy of Monk and his brother... I don't' watch that show but I gather from the commercials that he is pretty anal and a minimalist. His brother (so she tells me) is a hoarder. anything and everything that he can keep he does.

If you are going to move... try to minimize a little bit before you ask for people to help you. it is really hard to commit a day and think you will have it done and have an epic adventure in front of you. Be considerate of those you are asking for help from.

I love my mom. I am glad to help and I hope that she can let go of the excess baggage and be content. :)

I don't plan on moving from this house for another couple of years, or at least not until we finally do have more babies (we barely fit here now).

Cara